icangetpastthis (original poster member #74602) posted at 1:50 AM on Wednesday, December 17th, 2025
What do you do on your wedding anniversary after your divorce? The first such date is coming up soon. Not sure how to navigate through this day. Your thoughts/ideas might help.
M = 40 yrs on DDay = May 2017,
In House Separated = May 2024,
Filed For D = March 2025
D = Oct 2025
My DDay: https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums/?tid=665421&AP=1&HL=74602#mid8863521
Remember who you are and what you want
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 2:12 AM on Wednesday, December 17th, 2025
I didn't do anything because I forgot it. It was several days after my former anniversary before I even realized it had come and gone. I went to a Mexican restaurant with a friend afterwards and we had a few margaritas and a molcajete special.
It's just like any other day since it no longer signifies an anniversary.
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 2:36 AM on Wednesday, December 17th, 2025
What do you do on your wedding anniversary after your divorce?
I was catering a wedding that day. Nice couple, both in their 40s, divorced, one due to infidelity. It was a small event at his folks' house in the mountains. I got a bit tipsy and had fun.
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
Pogre ( member #86173) posted at 12:48 PM on Wednesday, December 17th, 2025
I would just treat it like Tuesday (or whatever day it happens to fall on). It's no longer a significant day anymore.
You know, this is just as good a question for those reconciling (or trying to) from infidelity. In fact it might be a more difficult one to answer in that situation. I've considered starting over with a new date that aligns more with a new beginning instead of the old date.
Where am I going... and why am I in this handbasket?
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:48 PM on Wednesday, December 17th, 2025
It’s normal to have some thoughts about it and maybe some strong feelings. Those will fade year after year. My anniversary was the other day and I wrote the date down and was like "why is this date ringing a bell?" It took me a few minutes to remember it was my anniversary.
But this first year, acknowledge it. Toast to what could have been then let it go. Journal about it. Give it a few minutes so you don’t stress or ruminate, but then let it go. It’s just a day.
Try and stay a little busy - maybe do something like go to the movies or go to the gym.
You got this.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
YankeeGal ( new member #78558) posted at 5:16 PM on Wednesday, December 17th, 2025
I asked the judge to have my official divorce date be the same as my wedding anniversary so I can just completely cancel that day out. The judge thought it was a great idea and smiled widely while making it official.
OhItsYou ( member #84125) posted at 5:21 PM on Wednesday, December 17th, 2025
Does taking her photos out to the gun range count?
